tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3879300263889026738.post5483415031038803751..comments2023-04-29T08:48:27.976+01:00Comments on I'm In Here Somewhere: I'm busywomanontheedgehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08738762111546696395noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3879300263889026738.post-81892503368998305582012-06-08T15:05:12.771+01:002012-06-08T15:05:12.771+01:00I was going to say what the other commentators did...I was going to say what the other commentators did. You can't make him 100% of your life because - you just can't. You do have stuff to do as well as look after him, and it's not necessarily a bad thing that he understands that, yes, he's THE most important thing in your life but you need to do other stuff that doesn't involve him too. Stop beating yourself up hun, as a mum you can't win either way, but you're doing the best you can and you provide a safe, healthy, stimulating and most of all loving home for your son, and really, that's all that he wants :-)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3879300263889026738.post-69363133402996288642012-06-06T12:16:27.537+01:002012-06-06T12:16:27.537+01:00Unfortunately it's nothing more and nothing le...Unfortunately it's nothing more and nothing less then real life. It's not necessarily a bad thing, again it's what we as adults do, we attach a meaning to something that may not actually be there. If a child said in a disheartened sad voice 'oh, mummy is too busy, i'll go away' then just sit somewhere alone, then there'd be an issue but there is nothing wrong with a child learning that they can't have 100% of someones attention 100% of the time, could you imagine what type of egotistical adult they'd grow up to be? They learn all sorts through copying us because they want to do what we do. When they copy an act we think it's cute yet when they copy something we ay, often we get the guilts. Sometimes though we have to ask are we guilty because they ARE feeling x whilst they say it or are we merely projected our guilt onto innocent and benign things and cretaing a problem that they MIGHT be feeling x?<br /><br />Okay that made way more sense in my head.Mama Undonehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04179934393105047389noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3879300263889026738.post-44544946302113530062012-06-06T00:19:28.208+01:002012-06-06T00:19:28.208+01:00It's most definitely not a 'Not very good ...It's most definitely not a 'Not very good mum' thing. It's one of those 'damned if you do and damned if you don't' things. As long as he helps out sometimes but not every time, gets some of your time, but not all of it, then that's a balance =) Balance is hard, but it's there, and he'll let you know if you've got it wrong, and it really doesn't sound like that's what he's doing at all!Laura G (Petit Moi - Big World)https://www.blogger.com/profile/00719323061433036730noreply@blogger.com